It's not always easy to embrace change and move forth into new and unfamiliar territory. I’ve experienced this more than ever in recent years, desperately wanting to cling onto parts of my life that're most comfortable and rebelling against anything out of the norm. But no matter how much I kick, scream, complain or throw an adult temper tantrum, there’s no way to get around the inevitable; growing up and owning responsibility. "That's life", as my dad simply puts it.
So what happens when the monotony of every day life begins to take a toll? Work is stressful, you feel there's not enough time in the day to do things you enjoy or maybe you simply don't have any direction on how to gain motivation and get back on track. Unfortunately, life doesn't come with a pause button and gone are the days of two month long summer breaks to decompress and prepare for the next chapter. We adults are forced to cut corners wherever possible, in hopes of staying sane.
Like most, I'm out in the world just winging it. But over time I've found a little method to the madness. I'm going to share a few things that've helped me better deal with pressure of the daily grind and enjoy more of what life has to offer. Whether a working professional, artist or parent, I think you'll find these suggestions useful!
1. Spice up your wardrobe
When you look good, you feel good! This statement couldn’t be truer. Spicing up my wardrobe was the first thing I did to drag myself out of a mental slump. It’s amazing how a few edgy pieces or a new pair of shoes can boost your mood and give you the confidence to feel like you can handle anything that comes your way! Starting a new wardrobe from scratch can be pricy. It's best to set a reasonable shopping budget and stick to a savings plan. Places like Marshalls, TJ Maxx and Nordstrom Rack have really nice, quality threads that’ll last and don’t cost an arm and a leg.
2. Don't have time? MAKE IT!
An extra 30 minutes to yourself in the morning can really set the tone for a positive day. I used to wake up at the last possible minute, feeling rushed and frustrated because there was no buffer between the time I got out of bed and arrived to work. I was exhausted before the day started! Not a good feeling. Now, no matter how groggy, I pry myself out of bed and gradually get ready. Some mornings are filled with jam sessions, others are spent journaling and mapping out personal goals or there are times I sit in bed and just give thanks for being healthy and alive! This may not seem like a big deal but having extra time to think and mentally prep before jumping head first at your to-do list, will help you feel more organized and less overwhelmed. Think about some of the little things that make you happy and challenge yourself to incorporate these activities into your morning routine. See how much better your day turns out when you start on the right foot!
3. Refocus and keep your eye on the prize
It's so easy to get off track and lose focus of your goals. This happens to me all the time. I get so wrapped up in how I feel when things don't go as planned, that l tend to forget about the big picture. What am I really working towards? How are my actions now, going to benefit me in the future? No one who's ever been successful had it easy. Sure, society would like you to believe the person you most admire somehow magically achieved success and everything they've ever desired. But truthfully, people don't always share the struggle and what you see isn't necessarily reality. Keep in mind that whatever you're going through now is normal and will only aid in making you the best version of you. Creating visual reminders is one way I practice re-centering my thoughts when the going gets tough. I have a giant sized white board in my kitchen that I fill with positive mantras and phrases that make me laugh or just serve as a peaceful pat on the back.
4. Talk it out with a shrink
I don't mean to pawn you off on anyone but hear me out. There are tons of misconceptions surrounding the idea of talking with a therapist. I was one of those folks, thinking I had to be in extreme emotional distress before seeking professional advice but this isn't at all the case. Think of it this way, you'd go to a hair stylist or barber because maybe you're unsure of the best way to achieve a certain look, right? Therapy can be thought of in a similar context. We don't always know the most effective way to handle our problems and even the best attempts at solving them isn't always enough. There's no shame in seeking guidance or reassurance from an expert. I found it to be extremely beneficial. It was comforting to know that I wasn't going crazy, my concerns were valid and my self diagnosed quarter life crisis, was just another case of too much googling. Haha!
Hope you enjoyed today's write up! Before you go, share some or your positive tips for staying motivated or feel free to comment anything that's on your mind.